“Count your blessings”, “Be positive”, “Think good thoughts”, “Don’t give up”, “stay strong”, etc, etc, etc. We all said these things to someone. Right? I did, too. But you know what, it’s easier said than done. I get it.
Honestly, counting our blessings doesn’t have anything to do with our stress and anxiety. They are completely different. If you are sad or depressed, it doesn’t mean you don’t value your blessings. It can happen despite knowing how blessed you are.
I have a friend who has panic attacks and recently I’ve even watched a few series where they depicted how anxiety is like. This overwhelming feeling is so difficult to even imagine. And it’s not your mistake or incapability to feel that way. But you know what’s the mistake here?
Not asking for help.
You are overwhelmed with all the junk thoughts and you are trying to deal with it all by yourself which is really difficult.
We need a hand to hold, a shoulder to cry on, a person to say ‘it’s okay, everything will be alright.’
Share your troubles. If you can gather enough courage to speak out about your problems, I’m sure there’s nothing in this world that you can’t achieve. Bottling up all your feelings inside until one blows up is not the right way to deal with a situation.
I’m not an expert at it but I’ve had my experiences where you feel everything and everyone has turned against you and there’s no way out. But I understand now that there is always a way out. There’s always an answer to every question. If not, how come a question even arise?
So, cheer up!
And while we are on the topic, I also want to say that the person you go to may or may not be the answer. Not everyone knows how to soothe an aching heart. And it’s also not in your hands how they react. Some might ignore the conversation altogether, some might seem disinterested, and some might ever brush it off with a lame joke.
But do not give up. Try until you find the right companion. When you do, you will understand it’s totally worth your time and effort. You think you alone can figure it out but believe me, you need a helping hand. Lean on somebody.
As a friend, I’d like to tell you three things.
You are not weak-minded to have anxiety.
But when you do, ask help from someone.
And recently I saw a series where one of the characters has anxiety and she tried a couple of things that helped her out during a nervous breakdown.
She joined a group therapy program where she shares her troubles and feelings. Just another example of how important sharing is.
And the other is she recorded her voice while speaking how she feels and what she is going through, and listened to it as a third person. And that gave her a perspective on what she’s coping with.
I know many of you feel ashamed to accept that you have anxiety but relax and breathe. It’s not the end of the world and certainly not something to be ashamed of. If it’s getting out of your control you should also be able to go to a professional for help.
The moment you start speaking about it is the moment you start getting better.
I hope this little discussion is helpful to you. I’ll see you next time and let me know your thoughts in the comments below.
Stay happy!
Until next time,
Nikki.
(Penname: Sarvani)